Tips for a Successful California Divorce Mediation

Abraham Lincoln’s famously advised: “A good settlement is better than a good lawsuit.” 

If you are anticipating divorce mediation, you are likely in agreement with Abraham Lincoln and want a good settlement, but you may be wondering how to make it effective and successful. This article will explore tips for a successful California divorce mediation with ideas summarized from an article published at ADRTimes.com. 

Build a deal, not a battle. 

  • In a fight, the goal is to win. In a mediation, the goal is resolution.
  • Your focus in mediation is to find solutions that benefit both parties. 
  • Try to see the other party’s point of view to open your mind to options that are good for everyone.

Focus on interests. 

  • An interest is a “want,” and a “position” is one way to satisfy a want. 
  • Focus on an interest, not a position. 
  • For example, both parties will likely have an interest in substantial and meaningful time with the children, but a position might be something like a specific parent time plan. 
  • Thinking outside the box of a specific plan with the goal of promoting the position of both parents needing time with their children will help everyone think outside the box and perhaps find a creative solution. 

 Be a patient problem solver. 

  • Many of the best ideas come later in the process. 
  • Initially, brainstorming as a problem solver where no idea is rejected or criticized is a way to build toward better ideas.
  • After many options have been identified, then the parties can evaluate them.

Work past the anger. 

  • At some point in the process, you will realize that you will not be getting everything you want and so will the other party. 
  • This is normal. A compromise is by its very nature not a win on all fronts. 
  • Some parties when their anger or frustration begins to rise want to cancel the mediation, but when both parties have reached this stage, it is often a sign that a compromise is close.

Be patient. 

  • Mediation involves change. 
  • It takes time for each side to understand or respect the interest of the other party. 
  • Often one or both parties come into the mediation with unrealistic expectations. 
  • Be patient to allow time for these changes to occur. 
  • Be willing to end the mediation without a final resolution but with an agreement to think through some of the ideas and work toward solutions in the future. 

Contact an Experienced California Divorce Attorney

You need an attorney to represent you who is confident in the mediation side of the divorce process as well as the litigation side so that you can reap the maximum benefit from every aspect of a divorce that is successful for you and your children. At the Law Office of David Knecht, we have extensive with divorce litigation and divorce mediation and we take pride in representing our clients with experience. We understand that divorce can be very challenging, and we are eager to help you feel confident as you navigate this difficult change in your life. Please contact us at 707-451-4502. 



Name Change After Divorce in California

According to a 2022 CNN article, about 80% of women in the U.S. change their surname when they get married and a small percentage of men change their name with marriage. 

If you are getting divorced in California, you may also be considering changing your name. Some people want a name change to mark a new identity and others may want to return to a name that was better known professionally or socially. This article will summarize the various processes for name change in California, with information sourced from the California courts self-help resources.

Changing your name back to a former legal name during a California divorce. 

  • There are two different forms to use, depending on whether you are changing your name when you finish your divorce or after your divorce.
  • The forms are FL-395 or FL-180. 

 If you want to change your name to something completely new. 

  • If you want to create a new name, then the process and forms are different than the ones used for divorce. 
  • You would use a petition for change of name. NC-100

 Steps to complete after your name is changed. 

  • Complete an Application for a Social Security Card with the Social Security Administration.
  • Contact the California Division of Motor Vehicles.
  • Contact the California Department of Health to obtain a new birth certificate with your amended name. 

Contact an Experienced Divorce Attorney

Changing your name can be a positive step for some people in starting a new life after the divorce. At the Law Office of David Knecht, we have extensive experience with all matters related to divorce and can assist you in changing your name and following through on the steps to complete after the name change is accomplished. For help with divorce and all other family law matters, please contact us at 707-451-4502. 

How to Survive Living Together During the Divorce

Many couples remain living in the same home during the divorce process, and it is very challenging. This article will summarize best practices suggested by a website devoted to providing support and solutions for thriving beyond divorce, with the source here: https://sasforwomen.com/women-share-how-to-survive-living-together-during-divorce/.

Talk with your children. 

  • It is important for both you and your spouse to explain what is happening and to reassure children that although things are changing, you both love them and are committed to making sure that they are supported and cared for. 

 Take the roommate approach and establish boundaries.

  • Discuss how your home will be divided so that each person has privacy. 
  • Get your own room.
  • Respect boundaries and demand respect for yours. 

 Create a parenting schedule. 

  • Even though you are all under one roof, you are now coparents and need to determine what the parenting schedule is and stick to it. 

Embrace a new normal. 

  • Living together gives you and the children the opportunity to adjust slowly to a new normal. You can model for your children resilience to change and adaptability that may help them adjust positively to their new normal. 

 Practice self-care. 

  • Your physical, emotional, social and professional well-being are paramount for you to navigate the divorce process and be a leader to help your children successfully navigate their new normal also. Do not be afraid to focus on yourself and do what you need to do, whether that be therapy, exercise, relaxation, etc. to take care of your own well-being.

Contact an Experienced Divorce Attorney

The divorce process can be challenging, but finding great legal counsel you can trust can help reduce the stress.  At the Law Office of David Knecht, we have extensive experience with divorce all other family law matters. Contact us at 707-451-4502. 

How the Rich Save Big on Estate Taxes

A recent article published on Yahoo Finance discusses some of the techniques wealthy families use to save on estate taxes. 

For most Americans, the tactics of the ultra-wealthy are not needed, but many find it fascinating to examine some of the techniques used by top0notch accountants and lawyers to save help rich clients save big on estate taxes. 

 

Using trusts to give away homes and country houses.

 

  • Qualified personal residence trusts (QPRTs) freeze the value of the real estate property for tax. 
  • Homeowner puts the property in trust. 
  • When the trust ends, it is transferred out of the taxable estate and the estate only has to pay gift tax on the value of the property when the trust was formed. 

Passing wealth to future generations with trusts that last up to 1000 years. 

  • The laws on these so called dynasty trusts vary by state, but the idea is that the heirs don’t own the assets, but they have the right to use them and receive income from them. 
  • This plan can allow the passing of wealth through trusts with a long lasting term.

 

Charitable remainder trusts. 

 

  • The person puts their assets in trust and collects annual payments for as long as they live, and only 10% of what remains in the charitable remainder trust has to go to a designated charity. 
  • The trust can be funded with a variety of assets from yachts to businesses, making them useful for entrepreneurs looking to help the world and benefit for themselves. 

Buying off-shore life insurance policies. 

 

  • Private-placement life insurance is used ot pass on assets without incurring estate tax. 
  • The trust owns the life insurance policy that is created off-shore.  
  • This one is primarily for the ultra wealthy, as the premiums are often 5 million up front.  

Transferring assets when the market is down. 

  • Grantor-retained annuity trusts can facilitate big savings when the market is down. 
  • They pay a fixed annuity, so a certain amount during a term such as two years, and appreciation of the asset’s value is not subject to estate tax. 

Contact an Experienced Estate Planning Attorney

Most of us are not ultra rich, so the techniques they use may not be applicable to you, but there are many tools available to facilitate successful estate planning even for the average American. At the Law Office of David Knecht, we have extensive experience with estate planning and create a customized plan with you to make sure that your loved ones are taken care of and your wishes are memorialized. Contact us at 707-451-4502.

4 Vital Questions in Estate Planning

This article summarizes highlights from a publication at TheStreet.com which discusses the four key questions in estate planning. 

According to a recent survey, although 87% of parents plan to leave an inheritance, only 37% reported an actual plan to do so.  For some, thinking about their demise is uncomfortable and for others, discussing an estate plan may create or reopen family disputes. 

Do I even need an estate plan?

  • That same survey found that one in five respondents admitted to arguing over an inheritance. 
  • Failing to plan for your assets, your healthcare if you are incapacitated and your end of life preferences can lead to confusion, results not in accordance with your desires, and unnecessary court costs. 
  • You estate could potentially be eroded by the unintended and unanticipated costs that result from not having an estate plan or not keeping it updated. 

What assets will I transfer?

  • You want to avoid any assets becoming unclaimed property.
  • One of the first steps is to have a plan that lays out what assets you will give and account details. 
  • Keep your asset list in a secure and obvious place. 

When should I transfer assets?

  • You can transfer assets while you are alive or after you have passed.
  • As you consider the question of when to transfer, you need to consider all the tax implications and also weigh your own need for the assets during your lifetime. 

 How can I communicate my plan to my family?

  • Open communication with your family members can help you better plan because you can get an idea of their financial needs and wants. 
  • The potential tax consequences of wealth transfer can also be important to discuss with family members.
  • If you plan to leave a business to family members, it may be wise to help teach and train them about the business during your lifetime.  

Contact an Experienced Estate Planning Attorney

The famous phrase, “failing to plan is planning to fail” is an axiom of estate planning and finding the right advisors to assist you is key. At the Law Office of David Knecht, we have extensive experience with estate planning. We can create a customized plan with you, or if you already have an estate plan, we can help you ensure that it is updated and accurate. Contact us at 707-451-4502. 

Settlement Announced: The Final Chapter in the Lisa Marie Presley Estate Dispute?

In a series of articles, we have been following the news related to the Lisa Marie Presley Estate dispute. This case has general interest to many in the public because of the fame of Priscilla Presley and her granddaughter, Riley Keough, who recently starred in the hit Amazon series Daisy and the Six. For the team here at the Law Office of David Knecht, the case is interesting for ourselves and our clients to follow since it involves an estate planning dispute, with interesting takeaways about the importance of keeping an estate plan updated and making sure it is accurate. 

The latest news, which is sources from CNN, is that a settlement has been reached between Priscilla and her granddaughter. Ronson J Shamoun reported in a court hearing in Los Angeles before Judge Lynn Scaduto, “The parties would like to report that they’ve reached a settlement.” 

What was the estate dispute about?

  • The dispute centered around the Promenade Trust, which named Riley Keough, Lisa Marie Presley’s oldest daughter as the beneficiary of her mother’s estate. 
  • Lisa Marie Presley, Elvis Presley’s only child, died after being hospitalized following an apparent cardiac arrest. 

What were the terms of the settlement between Priscilla Presley and Riley Keough. 

  • The terms of the settlement agreement are not public at this time. 
  • The judge asked for the settlement and the motion for seal (which would prevent public access to the settlement) to be filed by June 12 and set another hearing for the case in August. 
  • Shamoun, Priscilla Presley’s attorney, told reporters that all parties were happy and the family in now unified and excited for the future.

What was the problem with the estate plan?

  • Lisa Marie Presley’s will contained a 2016 amendment that removed her mother and former business manager as former trustees. 
  • Priscilla’s petition to the court identified problems with the amendment: she did not receive the amendment while Lisa was alive, which the Trust required, and her name was misspelled. The amendment was not witnessed or notarized and the authenticity of the signature was in question.

 What are some of the estate planning lessons for everyone that can be gleaned from this high-profile case? 

  • Make sure you prioritize getting your estate plan complete and updated because you never know when your time will come. 
  • Follow all of the rules and procedures properly to provide notice, have correct signatures, have proper notarization if required, etc. 
  • Communicate changes to family members in advance so that if there are questions or concerns, they can be addressed while you are still alive. 

Contact an Experienced Estate Planning Attorney

Benjamin Franklin is said to have coined the well-known phrase: “Nothing is certain but death and taxes.” The challenges faced by the rich and famous can be a lesson to all of us that our time may come sooner than we think and planning ahead for the sake of the peace in your family is vital. At the Law Office of David Knecht, we have extensive experience with estate planning. We will listen to you to create a customized estate plan for your family, or if you already have an estate plan, we can help you ensure that it is updated and accurate. Contact us at 707-451-4502. 

What is an AB Trust?

This article will provide basic information about an AB Trust, also called a bypass trust or a credit shelter trust with information summarized from Investopedia.com.

What is an AB Trust?

An AB trust is a joint trust for a married couple that is created for the purpose of minimizing estate taxes. It is formed with each spouse putting assets into the trust and naming as the final beneficiary any person except the other spouse. The name AB comes from the action that splits one trust into two separate entities when one spouse dies such that Trust A is the survivor’s trust and trust B is the decedent’s trust.

Why were AB Trusts previously ubiquitous but more recently they are no longer widely used?

While A-B trusts are a great way to minimize estate taxes, they are not used much today because of changes to the tax code. Now each individual has a combined lifetime federal gift tax and estate tax exemption was $12.06 million in 2022, and has risen to $12.92 million in 2023

What might be better for you than an AB Trust?

According to nolo.com,  for most people, a simple probate-avoidance trust is better than an AB trust, which can be more complex. A simple revocable trust is not designed to continue past the death of a spouse. Rather, the trust assets are quickly distributed to the people who inherit them. This avoids probate proceedings, saving money and hassle, and because the trust does not stay in existence for years, no trust tax returns are necessary. 

Contact an Experienced Estate Planning Firm

Estate planning can seem overwhelming or confusing to some people, which may result in a person delaying getting a plan in place. For estate planning made easy, contact us at the Law Office of David Knecht.  We have extensive experience with estate planning tools and can help you create the right plan for you and your loved ones. Contact us at 707-451-4502. 

Estate Planning Lessons from Hollywood: Michael Lockwood Appointed Legal Guardian Amidst Lisa Marie Presley Trust Battle

A widely publicized estate planning case that is ongoing is the disputed estate of Lisa Marie Presley and new developments were recently reported by the LA Times. Lisa Marie (daughter of Elvis Presley) died in January of 2023, leaving behind a trust that purported to leave control of her estate to her adult daughter, Riley Keough. However, Priscilla Presley (Lisa Marie’s mother) has challenged the validity of the documents that changed the Trust. In 2016 Lisa Marie amended her will, naming her two eldest children as co-executors. Her son pre-deceased her. She filed to dissolve her marriage to Michael Lockwood that same year. Lisa Marie and Michael Lockwood were parents of two minor twins. The new development in this case is that the court has appointed the father of the twins, Michael Lockwood as the legal guardian of the twins.

Takeaway Lesson for Estate Planning from this Case – Avoid Conflicts of Interest

Why was Michael Lockwood a good choice for a guardian ad litem?

Although we do not know the specific basis for the court’s ruling on this issue, the LA Times quoted Michael Lockwood’s lawyer explaining why Lockwood was a good choice: He said that his client was ready, able and willing to protect the twins’ interests and that he has a good, collegial, familial relationship with all of the parties involved. Perhaps more importantly, there is no conflict of interest regarding appointment because the proposed guardian is not a beneficiary of the trust instrument at issue. 

What is the estate planning lesson we can learn from this new development in this case? Avoid conflicts of interest.

When doing estate planning, an important consideration should be any real conflicts of interest of potential conflicts of interest. When you are alive, you are in the best position to know your beneficiaries, their relationship to each other, and try to look down the road to understand what motivations may be in play after you have passed. When you meet with your attorney to do your estate planning, it will likely be helpful for you to talk through any concerns that you might have about conflicts of interest and the possible methods to avert your worries. 

What other estate planning lessons can be learned from this case? The importance of following procedures and keeping all documents up to date. 

Some of the issues that are in dispute in this trust case are the authenticity and validity of the 2016 alleged amendment to Lisa Marie’s trust amendment. Pricilla has alleged that it wasn’t delivered to her during Lisa Marie’s lifetime, that the date was added via PDF, that the document misspells Priscilla’s name, that the signature is on a separate page from the substantive provisions, that the signature looks inconsistent with her usual signature and that the purported 2016 Amendment was neither witnessed nor notarized.

The most important takeaway from this case for anyone hoping to avoid estate planning disputes in the future is the importance of following the procedures required by the will, keeping it updated, being accurate, and fully complying with all of the requirements in the documents.

Contact an Experienced Estate Planning Firm

Estate planning that is kept up to date, drafted accurately, and performed in compliance with the terms of the estate instrument is vital for avoiding estate planning disputed. For this reason, finding an experienced law firm to assist you is essential in making sure that your estate planning is done properly to avoid disputes after you have passed. At the Law Office of David Knecht, we want to help you create a current and accurate estate plan that will help you achieve your goals. Contact us at 707-451-4502. 

Who Has a Better Chance of Getting Custody of the Kids in a California Divorce?

This article considers statistics relating to the physical custody of children and also the legal factors involved in these decisions.   

What are the statistics on physical custody?

 

These statistics are according to data published in 20202, which can be accessed here, 

  • Nearly 4 in 5 custodial parents were mothers. 
  • However, in more than half of the cases, the parties agree that the mother should have custody. 

Does this mean that there is a bias toward mother’s for physical custody? 

  • The legal standards, which will be described below, do not contain a gender bias. 
  • The statistics do not necessarily support the finding of a gender bias in the law because many of the parties surveyed had a parenting plan that was agreed upon by the parties and not based on a court award of custody. 

 

 What are the legal standards for determining physical custody?

 

Some of the factors that a judge may consider are listed on the self-help website of the California courts which can be accessed here. Factors that can be considered in determining the best interest of the child are the following:

  • Age and health of the child.
  • The emotional ties between the parents and the child.
  • The child’s ties to their school, home and community.
  • The ability of each parent to care for the child. 
  • Any history of family violence. 
  • Any regular and ongoing substance abuse by either parent. 

Contact an Experienced Divorce Firm

Each case is different, and whether you are a mother or father, the purpose of the family laws in California are to protect the best interest of your children. You need an attorney who understands family law and has the requisite experience to help you navigate the system. If you need help with any divorce issue or a other family law legal matter, contact the Law Office of David Knecht.  We have extensive experience with family law will listen to you and fight to achieve your goals. Contact us at 707-451-4502. 

Divorce and Healing

In a recent New York Times piece, the author describes how close friends became a parachute for her emotionally when she was left untethered and metaphorically free-falling alone after her divorce. 

If you are in the middle of a California divorce or rebuilding your life after finalizing your divorce, you may wonder how to find yourself again. Healing is possible, with healthy coping skills and time. This article will summarize suggestions from physchologytoday.com for healing during and after a divorce.

What are some key takeaways about divorce and healing?

Remember that you CAN heal from divorce with time and effort. 

  • Divorce involves stages of recovery and it takes time
  • Recovery requires a commitment to positive coping skills
  • Healing can take an average of one to two years

What are the do’s and don’ts in the acute phase of divorce trauma?

The acute phase is when you are in the initial shock of the changes in your life.

  • Do understand that this is a triage time and not the rest of your life. Keeping a perspective will help you cope with the trauma in this initial stage. 
  • Do focus on sleep, good health habits, friends and family. 
  • Don’t fall into bad habits with drugs and alcohol.

What is the acceptance phase of divorce healing?

The acceptance phase of divorce healing is a time of strong and extreme emotions. You may swing from anger to grief to guilt, shame or relief.

  • Remember that all feelings are ok
  • Listen to yourself and allow yourself to experience the emotions fully.
  • Find a close family member, friend or therapist to confide you feelings. Expressing them aloud can help you work through them.

 What is the adjustment phase of divorce healing?

The adjustment phase is when you adapt to your new life. 

  • Begin to create a plan for your new financial situation and parenting
  • Consider joining a support group
  • During this time you’ll notice that you are starting to think more clearly and feel more positive about the future. 

Contact an Experienced Divorce Firm

One way to facilitate the healing process in or after a divorce is to choose experienced legal counsel. A family law attorney who knows the system and is willing to take the time to get to know you and your case will help prevent the trauma that can come from becoming a victim to the legal system. Having excellent representation will take some of the stress of the divorce off your shoulders. For help with any issue relating to divorce or family law, contact the Law Office of David Knecht.  We have extensive experience with family law and can help you feel confident, understood and supported. Contact us at 707-451-4502.